Sunday, March 29, 2015

Ten Things of Thankfuls and a Four-Letter Word That Starts with S

Do you remember the scene in the movie Ground Hog Day, where every morning Bill Murray’s character would wake up to Sonny and Cher’s “I Got You Babe?” He knew that nothing changed, in fact, it was the same day.

Well we New Yorkers have a similar situation.

Folks, one week, not sure when; maybe soon, perhaps not soon enough, there will be a Ten Things of Thankful that I will not mention a four letter word that starts with the letter S – Yes It Happened again…..

It snowed yesterday (Saturday)- I am worried, because, in two weeks is a historic event that, ahem, could be a certain bloggers birthday- and I am very concerned, since every year on this special day the Forsythia bushes in her driveway always bloom; what if the Forsythias don’t bloom this year?

This is what we woke up to this morning!

Looking out the front window

Looking out the side door - herb garden buried

Regardless of all my concerns, and living in a frozen wasteland …well more like a frozen suburbia, I did find my ten thankfuls for the week.

Number One – The kids went to Religious Instruction yesterday. When I picked them up James wanted to go home, so Amelia and I went food shopping. Before we started our shopping, we stopped In Starbucks so I could surprise Amelia with their celebratory 20-year drink – Birthday Cake Frappuccino. Psst, that is pink whipped cream.

I love making her smile – I had a Chai latte.

Number Two – Food shopping was done early - while it snowed, we were home, no better place to be during snow flurries.

Number Three – homemade Sloppy Joes for dinner on Saturday night - it was yummy!

Number Four – The high school dance showcase was very entertaining - Amelia’s group did an awesome job.

Amelia is the only one whose face I didn't smudge– because she is my daughter

Number Five - Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt - hilarious – only 13 episodes, if you like the Office, and 30 Rock, you will love this too!

Number Six – Netflix - because they also added the last, Mad Men Season, only six episodes - almost done – it is so weird.

Number Seven -  Another day to add my comments, humor, wit, pictures and proud moments on my Facebook  page - unfortunately  in the last two week  I lost two Facebook friends; my thoughts and prayers are with their families.

Number Eight - Happy Palm Sunday everyone- Holy Week is upon us - have a glorious week! 

Number Nine- I have some great ideas for future posts – love it when I actually write down my ideas.

Number Ten  -  It was an excruciatingly  long week  - for some reason I feel tired (I  need to start my vitamin regimen that was suggested by my doctor  vitamins B-12 and D), my thumb is not better (I will seek medical help soon)  So I am so thankful for Friday night , Saturday and Sunday!

Sunday, March 22, 2015

The Weekend Is Almost Over – So What, It was a Nice One…

Sunday night – Dinner is in the oven, chicken and potatoes, roasting in a white wine broth.  Asparagus prepped for roasting soon- I will pop them into the oven in twenty minutes. In the crock-pot is split pea soup for tomorrow night.

So let me begin – Thankful one - I am glad that my car has brakes and I was able to stop while driving home during another snowstorm on Friday night - can you believe that we got five more inches, on the first day of Spring!

Despite the pain in my thumb, and the Planters wart on the sole of my right foot, I am not falling apart. You know how I know, I finally got up the nerve and had a physical, everything is fine- I have some high cholesterol to deal with – but so does everyone in my family. I was told that they want to test it again in three months; in the meantime, I need to exercise and change my diet. They want to try this before they prescribe any medication.

Thankful two the blood-work was fine. Whew!

My thumb hurts on the bottom knuckle, the pain extends to the bottom of the palm, and the darn thumb at times clicks, which came out no way.  

Thankful three, Nick bought me a brace for the thumb and some Epsom salt for me to soak it. If it continues, I will seek out a doctor, I just need to find an orthopedic doctor that is in my plan.  

Have you noticed how on Monday,  Friday seems so far away but on Friday Monday is not…

Thankful four - the weekend; hope you had a wonderful weekend!

Thankful five Amelia and I had a girls night out, went to go see Cinderella and dinner at Baha Grill. (Nick met us there for dinner)

Our girls’ night out!

Thankful  six and seven-  Amelia is doing a dance intramural at the high school  this week – The dance and kick line perform their finals – in order to get a grade the high school girls go to the elementary schools, they are assigned a grade and have to choreograph a dance.   She is having fun with this and I love watching her each year.

Thankful eight – on Friday night she told me that her team will be wearing a tie-dye shirt with leggings and that we should make one – we found one in Target. Monday is dress rehearsal.

Thankful nine - laundry is almost done.

Thankful 10 – Sunday night dinner was delicious; my ten thankfuls are completed,  now I will make myself a tea and relax.

What are your thankfuls for the week?

Thursday, March 19, 2015

Building on Bullying - It’s Wednesday and I Am Not Wearing Pink

I consider myself lucky when it comes to bullying and bullying tactics.  I wasn't bullied in school from other children, and my children, in the short time they are with us, have established themselves to stand up to bullying, mean acts, or words of hatred, regardless who it is aimed towards.  Whether it is aimed at them or at their friends, they stand up to these acts of cruelty.

I approach this new world (a protective mom) cautiously; because regardless of the situation, crossing a line of defending yourself or a friend is not far and can be perceived differently to witnesses around.  

Having said that my kids get it; I feel that because of their kind hearts and their integrity, their kindness shines through, and they are very liked among their friends.

This is where it gets tricky because I want to talk about one particular area that I believe can be a root of the evil.  Let me be clear, not the one and only origin, but another aspect of bullying, being mean and downright nastiness.

Before I get on my soapbox – I want you to know that my children are; a son age 14 and a daughter age 12.  Boys are clear-cut, black or white no grey area – well that is my opinion. Girls on the other hand are not, and boy oh boy the drama is too much for me to bear.  Yet if memory serves me correctly, when I was 12 I was not sassy and often confused by certain actions.

Moving along, as I step onto my soapbox, did you know that 57% of woman makes up the workforce today?   I thought it was higher but perhaps the statistics can be askew.  After all, everywhere I go I see many women working.  What I also see is among women is an animosity with one another. Unless it’s Wednesday and we are all wearing pink, (a mean girl reference) meaning I have your back because you are part of my team, or clique. It can be very intimidating.

We are taught at an early age to judge one another, criticize, and covet.

Why is that? I am not sure but I do know it is exhausting.

It starts as early as the 4th grade, it doesn't get better in high school but it starts to diminish slightly in college, and once we are in the work force, we all establish ourselves, but the disdain continues in a vicious circle. As women become wives, then moms and are still working, perhaps the stakes are higher, but the binding remarks, the unsolicited advice becomes meaner. The stares, the giggles, the whispers and being left out is too much to take -   Yes I am talking about being bullied in the workforce.

I once worked with someone that would walk around the office laughing and as she passed all of our colleagues, she always had some snide remark to make.  As I sat and worked at my desk, I wondered if she was actually working.  I also thought why no one was saying anything to her, you know why because she was a time bomb ready to make everyone’s life miserable.  It so happened because I was the newbie, I was always her target. Once, as she took her stroll, I stood up and laughed - everyone must have thought I was crazy – after a good laugh I sat back down and started working again.   I never stood up to her but when I gave my notice I demanded an exit interview and when I spoke to the owner I simply told him that his office was dysfunctional because of her.

Did that make me feel good, no not really, the workforce has change tremendously in recent years, it is quite competitive, there are individuals out there that feel binding comments, intimidation and backstabbing get points.

I come from a different place; I believe that you can fool some of the people sometime but eventually the deceit will be noticed. Well I hope so.

So what do we do?  We unite, why because “I am woman hear me roar!”

Holy moly can we see how strong we are?  Women can take the brunt of anything - if the child is sick, we take care of our child.  If we need to make ends meet financially, we do that too.  We can be composed, passionate, kind, loving and loyal - but the minute we see another woman doing the same great thing the swords come out.   Why is that?

Because back in 7th grade when little Miss Donna Marie walked into school wearing her uniform skirt hemmed above her knees  we all wanted that too.  Even though we all wished for a shorter skirt, Donna Marie became the talk of the school, and well, she asked for it.

Has that ever changed, in history?  Unfortunately it hasn't, the insecurities among women are remarkable. I wish we could all recognize our true potential. With the same vigor, which we proclaim about someone’s choice of clothes, automobile, or home, I wish we could stand by one another and declare how amazing we are.  Affirm our strengths, encourage one another, and reassure that our weakness is not a fault.

This damaging behavior among women is a form of bullying, which can be stopped by changing how we talk to our daughters and their friends. It is time to change our language.

This month, 1000 Voices Speak for Compassion continues to work toward a better world with a particular focus on Building from Bullying, as well as the broader topic of compassion.
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Sunday, March 15, 2015

Life Is Good, LOL!

Do you remember that famous scene from “A Christmas Story”, the  F-R-A-G-I-L-E scene?

Well a similar scene played out in our household last week, with less disdain and more humor of course.

A package arrived at our homestead one day last week, either Tuesday or Wednesday, I can’t remember.

It was Nick’s package. Nick told the kids he ordered underwear, the kids rolled their eyes, because they knew he was joking, excitedly the three paraded into the dining room so that hubby can open his package. We all watched, yes I did too, not sure why I was watching, because I just walked in and I think I was caught up in the frenzy of seeing what all the fuss was, or wanting to place my purse somewhere. 

Once the box was opened, it was my turn to roll my eyes; Nick proudly pulled out the package, a box that housed a keyboard with huge letter keys and numbers - the whole thing can light up with five different LED colors. 

He was excited, and exclaimed,” Now I will be able to see the letters.” I said,“You bought a geriatric keyboard?"He replied, “Yeah it’s for me, you’ll just think the colors are cool”

My comment was really just a tease – I like the teal color displayed.

Thank you my Love, for making me always feel young!

It is official, I have an old man - a very handsome and kind one.  I am always thankful for that.

I am not thankful that when I get home coats, shoes, and backpacks are everywhere!

I am so thankful that we have coats, shoes, and backpacks, but please put it all away!

I am not thankful that there is sand and salt being tracked into my house – but I am thankful that the snow and ice is melting.

We are learning to advocate for my daughter, a battle of wills, but I am thankful that we are both on the same page when it comes to Amelia’s sake.

As a result, we received positive feedback from the school regarding her middle school placement.  


James received his progress report, grades are getting better, thank you for listening!!!

James donning the beret I crocheted.

Thank you James for helping yesterday- you are a great son!

Thank you Miss Amelia for a nice day yesterday, thank you for helping me with the food shopping. It was nice cuddling on the couch on a rainy day and watching a movie with you - I love you!

I am so thankful that I see how you are reading so much, you did something yesterday that  a year ago, maybe even 6 months ago, you wouldn't do; you pointed out a play on a spelling of a word, that is huge my dear! I especially loved it when you read the words on the spare tire, on the Jeep ahead of us when driving home. You read aloud, “life is good”, then laughed at the sentiment.   You know what Miss Amelia; life is good, because you are here!

Saturday, March 7, 2015

S – A – T – U – R – D – A - Y... Spells My Happy Day And A Bunch of Thankfuls

It is Friday… the end of the week - aahhhhh!

I know everyone loves to say TGIF... Yay to Friday – although it is a great day – I do profess my love for Saturday.

Yes, Saturday is the best day of the week… I know I have a lot to do on Saturdays; the best part if I don’t want to do any of it I don’t have to.

If I want to, I can snuggle on the couch take a nap, read a book, crochet, watch a movie, and relax.  I do what needs to get done but the opportunity is there, and on occasion I make nothing doing happen.

My first thankful is to Saturday(s) it’s one of those days I look forward to.  

Guess what it snowed again, on Thursday into Friday… and the temperature dropped down to the teens overnight - on icy roads I arrived to work on time and more importantly safe. 

I made it home safe and sound too.

It was National Pancake day on Wednesday; therefore, we had pancakes for dinner.

My family is flexible of what I make for dinner. On the other hand, maybe they were hungry, they didn't complain - regardless all the pancakes were eaten.

“Everything is awesome….everything is great when you are part of a team!” …. 3:30 pm and upstairs is clean, two rooms down, James‘s room and my study, not 100% organized but both rooms are dusted, vacuumed and floors mopped thanks to me, Amelia and James.   Next  I will clean the main floor….tomorrow the kids will do the basement, their playroom.  Thanks to teamwork, and my kids, they actually help me, even if they are just talking, goofing around, and laughing because of someone’s stinky feet.

James was extremely helpful with thawing out the drainpipe on the side of the house.  He was quick to gather towels to mop up a tiny leak in the living room yesterday.  The ice in the gutters started melting but was not able to drain out of the drainpipe, the water having no way to go, seeped into the living room window yesterday. That was all prevented today, because this morning James made several trips with hot water to pour over the ice blocking the drainpipe and cleared it all out for the water to go through …all is good.

Can we talk about the drop off lines at school?  Why is there always a mom in front of me, not the same one, but they all seem to be wearing the same outfit, which is pajamas, Uggs, and a silly hat.  They get out of their cars, disrupting the line and drop off process, just to kiss their kids good-by. Now me on any given day I claim, “tuck and roll, my dear– mama gotta get to work, and have fun storming the castle!”  

However, witnessing the goodbye kiss made me think, how we take each other for granted. A while ago, I started implementing the same, but we do it at home before we get in the car, it truly makes a difference to all of us to stop and appreciate one another before we leave and go our separate ways for the day.  Instead of rushing out and at drop off scream out “bye see you later, love you, and make good choices…” which I do anyway , my kids are also armed with a hug and a kiss and I am fortified with a  good start to my day!

Last thankful, I drove home last night wearing my sunglasses…meaning the days are getting longer.  

Tonight we spring ahead… it’s only a matter of days before we (me, Long Island and New York and everywhere starts to thaw out!)


What are you thankful for this week; I am buried in 10 feet of snow, there are Icicles outside my window, I miss Bob the pool… but I am hopeful my dears.  No excuses! 

Sunday, March 1, 2015

First day of March Came In Like A Lion - My Ten Things of Thankful

This could be my first thankful, but truthfully I don’t live in an earthquake area so my first thankful is, we are home- nowhere to go but to hang and relax…well almost relaxing.

Thankfuls two, three, and four:

Nick works on Saturdays – has for many years, but every six weeks he gets a weekend off; Fridays and Saturdays - so he was able to drop off the kids at religion and pick them up - came back with lunch.
We had, what I call, a typical Italian Saturday lunch this is what my mom would serve on any Saturday afternoon. 

This is what we had, it was yummy, and filling, a late lunch means a lighter dinner:

Ciabatta bread, pepperoni, sweet cherry peppers, hot peppers stuffed with anchovy (my mom makes it), eggplant appetizer (mom makes that to), Mortadella - an Italian deli meat, homemade calzone, mozzarella, and olives.

Amelia has been wanting to Kool Aid dye her hair for the longest time, and I finally said okay; #Iamthecoolestmomever! Yes that is correct, Kool Aid, that is why we don’t drink it.  This could last a few weeks. Number five she is very happy.

Number Six, Nick and I went to get information for a family member hopefully it will be a good decision and a smooth transition – more about that later, sorry to be vague.

Friday morning – Good-bye Mommy I love you have a great day - he makes me smile; my number seven.

Number eight   - Dyanne, this is for you, I found that darn hat - I thought it was lost – Amelia found it!

It matches the shawl I crocheted - (I need to crochet more, really love it)

Miss Amelia finds everything - my number nine.

Last week I had a terrible cold, thanks to tea, grapefruits, oranges and my family taking care of me I’m feeling better – and I need to mention,  it was nice to sit and enjoy a few episodes of  House of Cards on Friday and Saturday night.

What are your thankfuls for the week?

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