Saturday, August 30, 2014

Ten Things of Thankful - First Rule No One Gets Hurt…

Ten Things of Thankful

First Rule No One Gets Hurt…

We are nearing the end of our vacation- ahem; our staycation – because I refuse to say that last night’s visit to the ER was the end to our vacation – we have three more days and hope that we can enjoy the rest of the days – safely.

Let me begin with what is weighing heavy on my mind this morning, because I really have no idea how to find the silver-linings.  It’s there, but I need to weed through the sadness to find it.

Yesterday afternoon while our good, longtime friends, Rosie (my soul sister) Lenny, and their daughter (our Goddaughter) visited us;  my  son fell off the swing (he was climbing on it – why, I don’t know) and landed on top of my daughter ; long story short  the X-ray’ s concluded that 4 of her metatarsal bones, broke badly.   I am heartbroken over this because this will be a long process to heal, I don’t want to see my children suffer, and so on, and so on…. 

Before I start to bawl again – let me begin with – Amelia is one tough cookie, so my First Thankful is that on impact she cried, and cried and screamed which indicated she needed medical attention and quickly my husband took her to a First Alert place, because it had an X-Ray machine. There he was told the foot was broken and she needs to go to the ER.

When they came home, we quickly made lunch so the kids can eat; I was not able to eat a thing yet both James and Amelia ate while her foot was elevated and on ice. Hubby, Rosie, Lenny, and Maria also had lunch, our friends knew how worried we were so without any fuss we quickly prepared a late lunch, ate quickly, then we all said our good-byes, we went to the ER while they went to the Airport to pick up their son Nikolis (Aka the Kid).  

The plan was that they visit with us for the afternoon, and then they would leave at five o’clock to get to the airport for their son’s arrival from Italy.  I was thankful it worked out, with our company – which leads to my Second Thankful - thank you to our friends for making us feel that Amelia will be okay – we have known each other for over twenty years – thank you so much for being there for us.

Once we were at the hospital, we were somewhat confused and most likely misguided by the First Alert Facility; who suggested with great conviction that once we are at the hospital we should request an orthopedic doctor to see the foot.  Yet the doctor on call suggested or actually mentioned that the chief of staff of podiatry will see Amelia, shortly.  

We both immediately said should an orthopedic specialist should see our daughter.  The doctor patiently told us that the hospital luckily has a podiatry department, and  with foot injuries that is who they usually call, while other hospitals that do not have a podiatry staff, call for an orthopedic doctor – she assured us this is the doctor that should see your daughter.  

Third Thankful is that, I am thankful that our hospital has a podiatry department; the chief of staff of podiatry was able to see her and take a course of action to heal her. Let’s hope I feel the same in a week.  For now because of swelling, he wants to wait until Thursday to see her again and will then determine how the pins will be placed.  Uugh!

So where do I go from here, I guess I can say we had a nice week off, with many highs and some lows. On Tuesday Amelia was hit in the mouth with a rock and chipped her tooth, actually, it was the bonding from a chipped tooth that occurred three years ago, so my  Fourth Thankful is that the dentist was able to fix it that day – ( poor Amelia not her week.)

With tooth fixed, we were back to vacation mode and were able to visit our beach every single day we were off – we all got some color and we became crafty at the beach coloring rocks and shells thanks to Lizzi who gave me the idea, Amelia and her friend loved doing it. 

Each morning I made a special breakfast for everyone, I am thankful that I am able to feed my family.

The weather was gorgeous all week and it continues to be lovely.

Aunt Silvana and Uncle Mark came to visit Amelia while in the ER, that made her night, and helped relieve some of the pain she endured.

I think a lesson is learned when I say no climbing someone will get hurt, I think he gets it now.  I hope he does.

I am not myself today,  I apologize  -  I’m not used to stuff like this and I am worried – if  it happened to  me it would have been a very different list,  but because it is my daughter that is dealing with a  broken foot  well  I am besides myself. 

One more Thank You goes to all my friends and family for all your kind wishes – neighbor friends on the block; Amelia loved the bouquet of flowers left on our door step – you all rock!

Remember, first rule, no one gets hurt.  

Sunday, August 24, 2014

Ten Things of Thankfuls On Vacation

Ten Things of Thankfuls
On Vacation

Well the week is finally over - it is Saturday and I am at the library, while Amelia is having her final reading lesson through the literacy program.  

It is almost 10:30 and from where I am sitting, not too many people are here at this time in the morning.  There are a couple of people hanging out at the computer stations that are provided by the library.  One woman is actually looking at books.  Two librarians at the reference desk are chatting with each other and every so often they start to laugh.  Of course, it is quiet but silence is accompanied with movement of work being done by other staff members, whispers of hellos, good mornings, and sales transactions at the coffee shop near by … “how much for that black and white cookie?”  “$1.25.” was the answer, then followed “your total is $ 3.45” The person must have gotten a coffee with the black and white cookie.

There is a man in front of me on the computer; at one point he is clicking away, browsing his heart’s content, yet he leans back on his chair, and he starts to doze off….lean, lean back some more, then he abruptly picks up his head, he is fighting to stay awake.

I just asked the librarian to reserve, for me a copy of the book called the 100-Foot Journey - hopefully I’ll get it soon.   I feel like I want to read a book instead of downloading a book  on a device – I miss that tangible feel. Because I can’t wait for the book, I found two books that will be coming home with me; the books are The Mermaid Chair by Sue Monk Kid  and The Weird Sisters by Eleanor Brown

One - Thank you library  - not only do I like getting books and sometimes movies for free, but I also can download books onto  my  electronic devices without costing me a dime  - Go check out how you can borrow books electronically .

Two – Thank you Overdrive and  another app called BookBub . BookBub  is a great site for cheap and free books to download; after you sign up, choose your genres, then you will receive a daily email from them listing the daily deals.  

Another great site to keep track of your reads and see what your friends are reading is Goodreads go check out all these great services.

Three - I am on vacation – we are not going anywhere but will enjoy a staycation on Long Island – beach, day trips, and friends visiting us (yay my soul sister will be in the house).

Four - Left my desk and office on Friday with everything that needed to be done – Done

Five - Food shopping done - two meals prepared for the week done –

A  Potato and Zucchini Casserole

Crock-pot spare ribs

Six – Even though we are having a staycation - We have Pringles too- Yay!

Seven - Looks like we are going to have nice weather all week –

Eight - Palazzo Pants, hemmed both Amelia’s and mine.

Nine - Going to my sister’s house – my nieces are leaving for college and we will be wishing them well and saying our good-byes.  Check out what I got them:

I filled a pencil case with a very large doughnut eraser, Disney princess pencils,  pencil pillows the glittery kind, a flamingo pen, a package of Oreo Cookies and  a Dunkin Donut gift card.

My kids were saying to me, that is so babyish mom.

Ten – One more week, Labor Day, and school will begin – oh did I mention I’m on VACATION – I so need this.

Sunday, August 17, 2014

Ten Things of Thankful-Slight Adjustments

Ten Things of Thankful-Slight Adjustments

Holy moly!  If there is any week in history, or for me, that the 10 thankfuls needed to be expressed, last week was the week.

I was sad over the death of Robin Williams, to the point that I couldn't post anything on Facebook or Twitter that was witty, like a clip, or a quote that belonged to him, all I did was simply write “Rest in Peace, Robin Williams, (I think that’s what I wrote).

I overheard a conversation disrespecting another individual by using a certain word that was callous.  I thought that maybe it was because this person had limited vocabulary usage – of course, also has a mean streak with no regards of the impact this conversation may cause.

Long Island was hit with a record rainfall, which created flooded areas and made the commute to work and back home close to impossible in some parts. 

On Thursday night, an old ghost appeared in the form of an email that put me in a spiraling downfall of regrets and fears, which only continued until the next morning – almost short-lived.

All of the things that I just mentioned remind me that at times I am more disappointed than I am not.

My thinking becomes a pile, of thoughts on top of one another and then I feel bad, hence the spiraling descent to “leave me alone”, and “it’s not fair”. I feel badly about many stupid things that I cannot change.  Which includes things that infuriates me, but still cannot change, and then it is tagged along with things that just makes me sad.  By this time, I know I cannot do anything about what has happened, and I make myself focus on more of the positive; they are there.

One of my sadder moods was because I feel bad for my kids – this summer they have been such terrific troopers. They do what they are told to do and go with the flow – it is so hard to have two working parents during the summer. 

On Wednesday, a mom of Amelia’s friend, called my cell phone at work to remind me that she was having a get together for her daughter, and was Amelia still coming.   It was Wednesday and I could have gone at lunch to bring my daughter to the party.  But because many of the roads were closed due to the flash flooding, I wasn't sure if I could do it in an hour, so with strict instructions that were dictated by cell phones and texts and were followed exactly, Amelia was dressed nicely, picked up by the mom,  and had a great time at the party with her girlfriends.

First, I am thankful to everyone that helped her get to the party.  Sometimes my kids just need a break following the rules, and need to have fun with their friends – her friend is moving and they both wanted to say goodbye to each other.

Second, about the flash floods, I am thankful that we were not affected by it, and both my husband’s and my commute were uneventful. Having said all of that, some of the areas that were hit were not that far away, maybe 20 minutes away.  I am really thankful, because it could have easily been us.

Third, I am thankful that I can see an unkind person and I know I want nothing do to with this person even though it makes me unpopular.  

Here is the thing, perhaps the deaths of two well-known, and respected individuals put me in a blah mood – it possibly reminded me of our own fragility and of my own mortality, and maybe once the spiraling  thoughts started I knew if I jumped off the cliff it would help no one, and would only make things worse.

What I mean by jumping off the cliff is, I was very close to doing or saying something that would only create more tension. My direct approach has never been, or will ever be considered as being smooth.  Therefore, I crawled away from the edge, and interrupted my ego by giving her candy in the form of Pinterest, yes Pinterest.

Forth – thank you Pinterest - maybe looking at the pretty pictures put me in a better mood.

What I realized while on Pinterest was that I cannot conform any longer to everyone’s image of what I should be.  One morning last week when I woke, I was furious, and truthfully, it was my fault.  Why was I angry; because I have this deep feeling that this thing of “my so called life” is not my life,  it’s not what I envision, yet I know it is my life and adjustments are needed – notice how I used adjustments and not changes – at this point I would not change anything, except making slight modifications. In addition, the slight alterations is all me.

Ego and Heart agreed on one thing that morning – who I say  I am is not the real me – I am a free-spirit that will not compromise any longer – I am an easy-going soul that is passionate and will stand to any cause.

Including not allowing anyone talking badly about another person, perhaps the person will be wise to this and stop talking.   I have compromised too many times; compromising is a funny thing, because once it is allowed it takes over every aspect of your life – think about it; friendships, work/career, parenting, and relationships. I’m not sure how to stop it except I think with a new attitude showing that I will not accept any terms that people other than me want to instill.  Wow, Pinterest really did that; yes it did, an Aha moment.

Fifth – I am not afraid anymore, the free-spirited me is like; what will be – will be (che sarà, sarà). Worry I will do, but afraid I will not be anymore.  It is crippling.

Sixth – life is too short, enjoy it with the ones your with – I had three great days; since my “Aha moment”   it was perfect.

Seventh - We had a wonderful night at the beach on Friday evening, a bit chilly – pizza was good – kids were happy and adults were smiling - it was followed by a quick stop at Ralph’s Ices.  Thank you town beach for making me feel like I’m on a mini vacation.

Eight – Pringles potato chips are the best when you want to feel like you are on vacation – I only buy them when we go away, so it was fitting to bring Pringles cans to the beach on Friday night.

Ninth- Thank you James for letting me borrow your laptop, so that I can bring it with me to the library, while Amelia had her literacy lesson.  I was able to get to work on my Thankfuls, and other things blog related.  I also got do one of my favorite things; that is people watch – I quickly wrote about someone sitting there.  Maybe it will be a future post…maybe.

Tenth- Thank you for keeping us all safe.

I decided that the blog I will use for the Ten Thankful Things would be Squaarekat – I think it would benefit the Thankfuls better and make more sense  - I also feel that Mangia, Mangia…No Talk should be for my recipes, my love of food, and my desire to  feed everyone that comes to my table.  I hope that is okay.

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